The End of a Relationship
The unresolved wreckage and unhealed heart don’t just go away at the end of a relationship. It lies in wait, ready to rear up in the next unsuspecting potential relationship.
To not be chosen by the one you’ve chosen, to be abandoned, or to have the one you most loved not show up in ways that would have allowed your relationship to work – can make you feel like your heart has been put into a shredder.
An unhappy ending can unleash a storm of pain that threatens to engulf you in what feels like larger than life feelings, leaving you feeling helpless to simply “move on,” as others might suggest. Feeling suddenly evicted from your emotional home you feel deeply unsafe, vulnerable, and maybe even spiritually disoriented.
The best way to outrun the sorrow of the ending of love is to use the fierce and fiery pain of it to catalyze your own awakening and drive you to realize your highest potential so you can create the live you were born to live.
Your mission right now is to lean into loving yourself, even though the one you love is unavailable to love you. A new and beautiful life is waiting for you on the other side of this!
My Story
When my marriage ended abruptly, it broke my spirit as much as it broke my heart.
Life had broken me wide-open and I was at a crossroads. I could allow the heartbreak to close my heart and live a less-than life, or I could use it for all it was worth.
Coaching helped me understand how to turn that love I’d so generously been giving away back to myself, allowing me to create a bittersweet breakthrough. I now have the ability to love myself even when someone else cannot.
“When my marriage ended abruptly, it broke my spirit as much as it broke my heart.”
Ground
Clearly see your situation and harness your changing emotions.
The place between no longer and not yet…
Divorce is a time when you’re stranded between two worlds. You’re no longer the person you once were, and not quite the person you’ve yet to become.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by the break-up of your marriage. And more normal to hate the divorce process. But let me be straight with you – the more you address the dark emotions, the clearer you will be in handling everything that comes your way.
I can coach you to find your way through divorce with integrity, clarity, and dignity. It’s important to get grounded and be able to see the landscape so that you can make solid decisions and begin to heal.
In three confidential and customized coaching sessions, learn to:
Work through reactive emotions so they won’t show up in important decisions and legal proceedings
Put yourself first during one of the most chaotic and painful times in your life
Begin processing through the phases of grief, anger, fear, depression, guilt, and shame
Gain stability and confidence by mapping out your divorce journey
“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are the strongest at the broken places.”
Heal
You’re grounded and ready to heal your pain.
The shock of your divorce has finally settled, but you still feel raw, and vulnerable.
As you navigate the legalities, the uncertainty of what your future holds is nearly unbearable. Fear, guilt, anger, confusion, and the sheer insult to your core sense of self consumes you. It’s hard to imagine you’ll ever feel normal again.
No matter how much you feel you’re at the mercy of things outside your control, the sooner you can see clearly how your life is happening for you, not to you, the sooner you’ll graduate from discouraging patterns of love and go on to create a much happier, healthier experience of love in the future.
Divorce coaching can help you:
Unravel and understand your emotions, patterns, and beliefs
Accept your current circumstances
Understand how your partner was the perfect person for your personal evolution
Take responsibility for your part in what happened, and for your happiness and your future
Uncover healthier patterns of relating
Resolve the past
Reclaim your power and your life
“We see life not as it is, but as we are.”
Tranform
From happy ever after to happily even after.
True transformation begins with releasing the past.
Forgiveness…it’s not so much a feeling as a decision made from the strongest, soundest part of yourself – and you do it to free yourself.
To be fully free, you’ll want to let go of ruminating on who did what to whom, and turn your attention to the ongoing practice of forgiving yourself and your former partner for the many mistakes made during the course of the relationship. It’s time to set your sights on what you want to create in your life.
Use your divorce to:
Ignite your self-love, self-care, and sacred center
Release the barriers you thought were protecting your heart
Uncover the gifts, wisdom, and lessons of your divorce
Show up in ways that are reflective of your worth
Experience a clean completion so you can build thriving relationships
Take responsibility for your life and your happiness
Learn to make wise, healthy decisions from your interior
Create a vision and a roadmap to reinvent a life filled with possibility
Reclaim your happiness and joy
Learning to live happily even after, finding a way to forgive the unforgivable, and to move forward in life with gratitude in your heart and kindness in your words may very well be the essence of what it is to truly love.
“It looks like the end, it seems like a sunset, but in reality, it is a dawn.”